Friday, July 13, 2007

From a Dear Prudie article...

Im speechless.....really I am.

Dear Prudie,
My daughter is 5 years old and has, like most girls her age, a hamper's worth of stuffed animals. While she has her favorites, she constantly wants more and usually connives to get someone (read: her grandparents) into procuring a new one every couple of weeks. The new one immediately becomes her favorite and she must sleep with it every night and haul it around half the day. My question is: Does this behavior indicate she'll be overly promiscuous as an adult, or at least unable to commit to a single partner?

—Perhaps Overly Worried Father

Thursday, July 12, 2007

Mistrial again-Bowen, Safi Sex trial

Lincoln Journal Star-July 12th, 2007-Mistrial declared again
Lincoln Journal Star-July 11th, 2007-She gets a lawyer to file from out of state
Lincoln Journal Star-Nov 12th, 2006-Jurors impressions of the first case


Mistrial. AGAIN. Maybe this will get the message across that women don't get a pass on being stupid. Ms. Bowen's foolishness and lack of restraint is part of what got her here in the first place, and her inability to just relate the facts. Instead she gets a high powered feminist lawyer thats not even registered to practice in this state to file motions saying she will defy the Judges ruling. That pretty much spells out her intent-she thinks that if she squeaks long enough she will get her way. Not in this courtroom, however. Please live with your mistake and stop cheapening the assaults of other women that were rapes. YOU chose to drink, YOU chose to go with him, YOU chose to not leave in the morning immediately, and YOU chose to have him drive you home. Some evil rapist he is, huh? He even stopped when you asked him to. What more do you want? You don't get to change the events based on how dumb you feel after the fact. You and your parents get an advocacy group involved on the steps of the courthouse and you didn't think it would affect how this worked out for you?

Im sorry, but I really get ticked off when things like "duh, I got drunk and did something stupid" get warped into " I don't have to take any responsibility for my actions whatsoever". This guy is a slime-he picked up a drunk girl and had sex with her. Guess what, it happens a thousand times a day. If he was drinking, too, might he counter sue? Most women would see it for the mistake that it is, but some apparently need to make a statement. Rape is a terrible crime, true, but being compliant in sex until after the fact is not rape. This has been ruled on in other states so I don't know why she is surprised. She has since dropped her plans to become a lawyer-what do you want to bet she sues in civil court for mythical lost income? She vows to keep this case going until she gets her way, which is, he goes to jail, yet what about HIS rights? After all, with two hung juries and the strength of her testimony riding on the fact that she feels she can't win unless she uses prejudicial buzz words you'd think that she would move on with her life instead of living in 2004. He was supposed to deploy to Iraq, and I'm pretty sure that the best job he'll be able to get in the future is working at a convenience store or in construction.

Welcome to adulthood, Ms. Bowen. Its not always fair, not everyone wins, people have stupid sex and do stupid things when they drink, and in the real world we move on and try not to do it again. The sooner you learn this, the sooner you can stop playing a victim and join the rest of us at the grown-up table.

Sunday, July 08, 2007

The Raw Story | FOX News asks: Did Mr. Rogers destroy an entire generation?

The Raw Story | FOX News asks: Did Mr. Rogers destroy an entire generation?


I really have to draw the line at this. While I think there are a lot of prima donnas on the block today, and im sure amongst my own age as well (gen xish, judging from the 30yr midlife crisis's im starting to see), I also can't rationalize some professor taking pot shots at the one guy that was a father figure/friend for many of us growing up. There were kids that I grew up with that spend more time with PBS than with their fathers, and I I was one of them. ( I had grandpa making guns and cannons in the basement to look up to, though-dad was stationed in Germany so he had an excuse. Hundreds of thousands of latch-key kids weren't so lucky)

Being told that you are special just the way you are is not a bad thing-fostering an attitude of you are more special than anyone else is the problem-that and the disconnect between parenting and being a friend.